Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Keep It to Yourself

Seriously...

If you are going to hide an insult with your compliment...then I don't want it.

Today I was feeling daring and decided to wear my black skinny jeans to work.  I have been very hesitant to rock the skinny jeans since it is hard for a big girl to rock them.  Not saying they can't but skinny jeans look amazing on people who are super skinny.  Then I thought to myself...stores make them in a size 18 for a reason...f the assumption...I'm trying them.  So I did and I ended up loving the way they looked on me.  Esp with flats...such a cute fall look that I have been dying to be able to sport.

I haven't worn them to work yet because of all the opinionated people there that always comment on my outfits everyday. But today's weather being gross and sitting in my room staring at a huge pile of clothes with no options...I decided to just do it.


Here is the look:



I thought it was pretty cute, esp with my signature cheetah flats (love them forever).  Of course I post this pic to my instagram.  I received a lot of likes and even a few comments.  But one comment stood out to me the most.

"u r so beautiful i bet u would be more stunning if you were thinner"

Really? Seriously? Did someone really just say that to me?  Instantly I was pretty mad. This person doesn't know me.  They don't know that I have already lost almost 60lbs and was still nervous to wear these jeans to work.

My response was pretty tame considering I wanted to punch this girl.

"um ya think? But beauty is beauty.  It's what is on the inside that makes us ugly"

Now that I type that out I am not sure if that really makes sense.  But basically I wanted to call this person ugly (even tho she was pretty) because of what she said. I also wanted to tell her that I don't need to be thinner to be stunning.  And a stunning person would never tell another person that in the first place. But that is just my opinion.

I would be lying if I said this comment didn't bother me.  It did and it still kinda does.  But I have received a lot of positive comments about my look today (even from the judgey people at work).  Not that I need those comments but they def help me know what looks good on my body. Sometimes I think something looks flattering but in reality it doesn't.  It's always good to get a second opinion.  

So I guess the point I'm trying to make is...don't say something nice and then add your opinion in afterwards.  People do not need to hear that they need to be thinner or that they need to fix their hair better or that their makeup is jacked up.  Just give them the compliment and move on.  Or don't say anything.  Period.

3 comments:

  1. I think most people who struggle with their weight would be hurt by a comment like that. I think you handled the response well.

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  2. That comment really bothered me too when I read it on your instagram. You handled it very well, i couldn't think of a nice was to kinda tell them off and you did! Your fabulous and you look awesome!!
    -Megan (megaswim)

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  3. WOW just WOW!! How rude! I'm sorry someone made a comment like that some people truly dont understand. I think that would sting if it was said to anyone.

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