There are certain people (read: person) in my life that love to bring me down. If I am happy or feeling confident they can't stand it. They are always in competition with me and always want to be better than me.
That is not my definition of friendship. No way.
There is a specific girl who almost daily critiques the way I look. Sometimes (rarely) she will say something positive but almost always it is something to tear me down. Every.damn.day. I can't stand it. The problem is that I work with her. She is in no way a friend of mine...more like a work friend I guess. She is a bigger girl too and she can't stand it if I weigh less than her or look better than her. She is in constant competition with me and I HATE IT!! It makes me so mad. Who competes with their friends?! She should be encouraging me not bringing me down. And hell yeah I am at fault too because I act like that towards her because she does it to me. But I would NEVER say anything to bring her down. Never ever. Mostly I just compete with her in my head. Like I will workout harder one day or eat healthy so I can accomplish my goals faster than her. But I would NEVER say anything to discourage her. And that is where we are different.
So here is why I am so mad/sad. This week the weather has be beautiful and I have worn dresses the past three days. I love dressing up! I post my outfits on Instagram and love to talk about fashion. Unfortunately....every outfit I wore this week...there was a nasty comment made about it. Why not just say anything?! Why do you have to make a negative remark? When I feel like I look cute my mood is amazing and I'm happy. Why do you feel like you have to ruin that for me? What I wear does not affect your daily life so why comment? Keep it to yourself.
Here are the three outfits I wore this week with comments:
|"You should have worn a belt with that"|
|"Cute dress, what's going on with your oily face"|
|"Woah why are your boobs hanging out and why is your dress so short?"|
If you don't have anything nice to say KEEP IT TO YOURSELF! And I KNOW this is not the first blog post where I mention this girl. And I will not tolerate it. I will not let her bring me down. I will not be her door mat that she can be mean to in order to make herself feel better. I will NOT!
There needs to be more kindness in this world. People need to be encouraging to each other and not rip each other apart. Even though they are "just words" sometimes it still hurts.
Ok I'm done venting now. Time to put a SMILE back on my face. :)